Yes, I’ve had a couple of glasses of wine. That’s what it usually takes for me to venture onto a dating site. I think I’d like to date. But I haven’t had one in several years. Ok… just filled up on glass #3 – Graffigna Malbec is the wine of choice tonight.
How do people meet up these days? If you don’t do a dating site, how do you meet people? I certainly don’t meet anyone at work. My profession is primarily female and my “clients” are teenagers.
My logical self tells me that I’m quite a catch. I’m financially independent, attractive, self-assured, intelligent, and have little to no baggage. At the age of 41, what should I expect?
What are the prospects of finding a guy that doesn’t have kids by now? In the past few years I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m not having them. I’m ok with that. I get to be the totally cool, awesome aunt. If the guy has kids, where exactly would I fit in? They should be his top priority. But where does that leave me?
I really have to wonder about the guys that are separated. C’mon! Get your shit together. Get your divorce done with before you bring someone else into the equation. If a dating site offers “separated” as a status they should come with some device that boots you out the minute you check it. If you can’t handle being alone for the time it takes for your divorce to happen, you need to be a little more introspective. Take the time. Get over your past relationship before you jump into your next one. I don’t want to be the girl that helps you get over the last one. Been there, done that.
There’s usually a spot for your political beliefs. What the hell do they believe if they check “non-partisan?” How can you not have an opinion on what is happening in today’s political climate? I know I’m breaking it down to very simplistic terms, but you are either for the rich getting richer or you’re for the underdog. And I have very strong opinions on that one. You cannot be living in this world and not have an opinion on politics. Don’t be a chicken-shit and say “non-partisan.”
And what is the deal with age? Overwhelmingly, when you look at the age preferences of men, they want to date a woman who is either their age or younger. Very rarely do you see a man with an age range that includes women more than 5 years older than himself. Since I look and feel younger than 41, I am again, screwed.
I realize that I probably am pretty particular in what I want. But then again, you have to be when it comes to something like this. I’m sure I sound completely cynical about this process. But look at the reality. I’m not a damsel in distress that needs to be rescued. I’m a completely competent woman who is just looking for someone to share her life with. It shouldn’t be this difficult.
Certain Absurdity 